Parents and their kids Facebook Pages

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I read a poll today on a friends Facebook page talking about parents and their kids Facebook pages.  Here is exactly what the poll said: “Todays poll is…. Are you a parent that occasionally checks your child’s phone and/or Facebook to keep in touch with what they are doing and who they are talking to? Or are you a parent who feels that would be “invading your child’s privacy?” just wondering how other parents feel!”  

OK . . . I am delighted to report that every response to this question was exactly in line with my thoughts and feelings.  However, I do know parents that don’t think they should invade their children’s personal space and think that going behind their kids backs and monitoring their activity on the internet is wrong and invades their privacy.  Needless to say, I don’t talk to these parents and we do not like each other.

Parents need to understand that they are parents first and foremost and they have a responsibility to know everything their children do on the internet.   You have a responsibility to your children and their safety to monitor what your kids are doing on Facebook, who they are associating with, and who their friends are.  Here are the responses and I think you’ll learn a lot more by reading their responses rather than me blabbering my opinion:

  • Oh boy…. It is not invading a child’s privacy. Parents have a responsibility to monitor their kids Facebook and online activities. 80% of female teenagers in the past 30 days have been hit on via the Internet.

    6 hours ago ·  ·  2
  • No kid in my house gets privacy unless they need to use the loo..

    6 hours ago ·  ·  4
  • I check frequently…

    6 hours ago ·  ·  3
  • I do it all the time, she is too young not to have someone checking in.as long as she is under my roof ill be checking. if under 18.

    6 hours ago ·  ·  3
  • I have had passwords since day one for fb never changed because they know I will pull the plug, phones I check who they are texting etc.. thats what a parent is suppose to do.. ! I pay for the phones they just get to use them. :)

    5 hours ago ·  ·  3
  •  A parent responsibility is to be a parent first…..

    5 hours ago ·  ·  2
  • I read a long time ago, kids will have plenty of friends come and go .. you have one chance to be a parent..

    5 hours ago ·  ·  3
  • It’s not a privacy issue, it’s a responsibility issue. Don’t forget our parents got to listen in on our phone conversations and potentially read our mail. They’ll be on their own soon enough. Let’em enjoy the “free” advocacy while they can.

    5 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • Good poll – I have been told in the past that my children are “controlled” as if that were a negative thing but isn’t it my job to control a 16 and 11 year old ? The moral standard is being lowered every year by pubic figures including sports players, politicians and the like. I have a duty as a parent to make sure that my children follow a good path and I will go behind them to make sure they are! (No privacy allowed!) I get so irritated with the selfish “if it feels good do it” mentality and it seems that it is seeping into the younger generations. Children are born to parents for a reason – they need us to control them! LOL *stepping off my soap box now ;)

    4 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • As a parent of a completely trustworthy and responsible 13 year old girl …. I am checking!

    4 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • I always check both I feel it my job as a parent.

    4 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • Always check, and am “friends” with her and many of her friends. Always peekin at the phone specially thru the internet bills! She is 14, responsible but easily coerced.

    4 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • Checking and she has to be friends with both her dad and with me.

    3 hours ago ·  ·  1
  • When my 2 older kids were in high school I used to go through their backpacks. Even did it when they came home from college on the weekends. My roof, my $$$ paying for college, my right to look! I look for change behavior patterns too. Example, when my oldest son was in college at MMA I noticed everytime he came home or we visited he was chewing gum. I thought…hummm, he never was a gum chewer. Decided to take a peak in the ole backpack. And what to my wondering eyes did appear. Cigarettes!!!! Boy was I ticked. Thankfully he gave it up. That was several years ago now. Oh, and I have other stories. No one gets away with anything in my house. HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! I LOVE kids~~~~

    about an hour ago ·  ·  1
  • I thought your first post said that your kids got privacy!!!! Haha!!!! I am being told that NO parents check their kids unless they don’t trust them!!! I trust my daughter completely, but it is my JOB !!!!

    about an hour ago · 
  • I trust too! But kids are kids! We were kids too. We weren’t always perfect either. There is a line however between doing “kid” things and more serious things. All 4 of my children are great kids. Never been in trouble(knock on wood)but that doesn’t relieve me from being their parent first, friend 2nd. Our oldest tried pushing a few buttons when he was a senior in high school but it was short lived. A couple of speeding tickets…He is a good young man. 24, and USCG based on the Tahoma.He does have a tiny wild side. Must take after his mother!! HAHAHA~~~~

    about an hour ago ·  ·  1
    I think this was an awesome poll and I am delighted to read that parents are still heavily involved in their kids lives.  Thanks for posting this poll and enlightening my day.
    As a parent, I would be delighted to hear your thoughts too.

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