Bullying and Suicide: A Message to Bullying Victims

According to the World Health Organization, one million people commit suicide every year. Every forty seconds, a person takes his or her life out of the belief that suicide will solve all of his or her problems.  However, no problem is worth taking your life.  All problems are temporary and can be overcome with time.  Suicide is a permanent action to a temporary problem.  Once you take your life, you cannot hit the rewind button or be revived by a magical green mushroom; the action is permanent.

In the video above, Jeff Yalden addresses the issue of bullying and tells you safe ways to overcome your problems.  A problem, such as being bullied, is not worth taking your life. If you are being bullied, Jeff urges you to seek help and open your heart to others.  If a person begins to bully you, just walk away.  It is not your fault that you are being bullied; the person bullying has simply chosen you as a victim because of dissatisfaction in his or her own life and a low self-esteem.

To understand why people are bullied, the first question that must be asked is, “What exactly is bullying?”  Bullying is the use of force and coercion to intimidate.  It has been going on for hundreds of years and as Jeff states, it will most likely go on for hundreds of more years.  Bullying is a common issue, with 1 in 6 students being regularly bullied according to a Clemson University study.  A bully has little self-respect and tears down other people in order to feel better about himself or herself.

No progress will be made if the focus of change is on the bully.  As Jeff wisely proclaims, we need to focus on how the victim of the bully feels.  If you are being bullied, who are you, and why are you allowing people to have power over yourself?  If you think you are the victim, change your though pattern from being the victim to becoming the one in control. Why would you sit there, take it, and believe what the bully is saying?  Words only hurt if you choose to believe them.

Never let other people control your self-image.  When you look in the mirror, do not see yourself as others view you, but see yourself as you wish to view yourself.  Be original.  Be different.  Did Steve Jobs and other greatly successful entrepreneurs change the world because they wished to “fit in?”  No!  They did the entire opposite; they acted in a way that no other person did and became highly successful because they were misfits of society.  If you do not believe that famous people were ever bullied, you are entirely wrong.  This website shows just a few well-known people that went through the same problems as teenagers being bullied today.  Among them is everyone from Jessica Simpson to Bill Clinton.  People do not change the world by being a “copy.”  You were not meant to be a copy, and if you wish to think of yourself as one, you are taking away your originality, one of the most important things about yourself.

If you are unhappy with your self-image, do not change it into something that other people wish to see; change it into something that you wish to see yourself.  Do not let other people control and manipulate you.  Be in control of your own destiny.  Do not take in what bullies say, and do not let their words even allow you to consider suicide.

Parents can help raise the self-respect of their children by getting more involved in their lives and less involved in what they think is important.  They need to get their children involved in activities, while steering them in the direction of something they enjoy that they are truly skilled at.  Teachers can make a difference too by teaching for the reasons that teachers used to teach: to teach young people how to live their lives. Teachers should spend less time on standardized testing and more time on teaching everyday skills, such as having manners and coping with issues.  If parents, teachers, and students gather together, perhaps we will see the day when people care more about being original than fitting in: the day when no deaths are self-inflicted because of bullying.

If you believe that this message could benefit the students of your area, please visit jeffyalden.com for more information.

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Author:Jeff Yalden, Youth Motivational Speaker

Youth Motivational Speaker & Teen Life Coach. Since 1992, Jeff Yalden has been mesmerizing audiences with his engaging style and passion. Jeff is a story-teller that every where he speaks, he guarantees he is real and in the moment, perfect for every audience. He is one of a kind. He's interactive and nobody pours as much energy and passion into their programs that Jeff does. Guaranteed, Jeff will be a defining moment and a highlight of your students lives. www.JeffYalden.com

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